How does one choose?

The three women I have asked to walk before me and commit to having an active role in my wedding and my marriage, are there for a reason. They have stood the test of time. They have believed in me, and the family David and I are creating, even when I didn't believe. They are the ones that convinced me my past relationships were going no where. You know these kind of friends - the ones that are there, even when you wish the whole world would just leave you alone.

In choosing to have them with me - close to my side - on October 7 I have made them the elite of the elite. The top of the line in my book. Choosing one to have more importance than the others just doesn't seem fair. It feels quite the opposite in fact.

How does one go about choosing the top maid? How do I choose one and tell the other two that they're not as good, not as valued, not as appreciated? How do I make sure that they don't feel any of those things?